12 Lessons Strong and Healthy People Are Using To Stay Mentally Strong Right Now
1. Don't let others influence your emotions and/or cause fear
If nothing else, I think we can all agree this is definitely a time where it seems there truly is no absolute "right" nor absolute "wrong". With authorities at juxtaposition with each other, and seeming contradictions at every corner, it seems like we are left to discover our beliefs on our own. This leads to all kinds of opinions and fears floating around in the social media ether. And adapting to someone else's opinions can heavily influence your own emotions about the situation when you don't think for yourself.
The first thing to remember is if there is a true and perfect answer it would be known. There is not.
Secondly, what you are reading is opinion and SOMEONE ELSE'S statements of their own fear, even coming from the authorities. That's why this thing is in a period of "research". Sometimes we don't know the "truth" about something until years and centuries down the road once we've gotten wiser. So instead of waiting until someone has "the answer", learn to identify what YOU believe. At least then your emotions AND your decisions will be your own.
2. Don't be afraid to be alone
We are creatures of habit and tend to cluster in groups. Even the most powerful, successful people that are surrounded by people all the time need alone time to re-group. It's not a bad thing. It's not a forced thing. It shouldn't have to get to be a point of a structured quarantine thing. Getting to the core of yourself is allowed to happen when the hustle and bustle of busy-ness, productivity, and expectation is put on hold. It's too bad it got to this point before many of us remembered that.
Getting alone allows us to truly do what we discussed in lesson #1: identify your own thoughts, emotions, beliefs so that you can make your own conclusions and decisions. Getting alone allows you to get back in harmony with nature and natural order so that you can feel truth. It's hard to do this when you've got the megaphone of the outside world in your ear.
3. Don't waste energy on things you can't control
Situations that leave us feeling like we have little to no control are situations based in fear and lack. These are hardly vibrations in which to create strength and positivity.
Self help bookshelves are ripe with books that teach us to "love what is", "Love where you are", etc. It's because we are terrible at adapting after being used to getting what we want and cloistering ourselves in comfort, to the point where we start to believe we should NEVER be in a place of discomfort. We forget it's when we are uncomfortable that we grow, because there is something driving us to finally get on board and make change. Learn how to get control over your own mind. At least that's one thing you are in charge of.
We currently find ourselves in a situation we can't globally control. We aren't getting "our way", when maybe it's time for us to learn that "our way" isn't the next best way any longer. Funny how important our own little world becomes when we can't make our outside world do what we want it to do. Everyone is in control with how they will use this time. We can choose to be stagnant or we can put our energy into using this time to learn a new skill, make a new plan, change in the ways we have previously been fearful to try. Better to allow this alone time for an uncontrollable situation to bless you with lessons you can grow from.
4. Don't dwell in the past
Like it or not, what you did last week, last month, was something you USED TO DO. In many peoples' cases you don't do it anymore or at least not in the same way. The longer we look at yesterday and the things we were able to do, the more downtrodden we will feel about what we are perceiving we aren't allowed to do today. Bemoaning the past is laden with hopelessness and grief, and makes it very difficult to pick up the pieces and make a plan for the future. Sure, let yourself grieve, but don't stay there too long if you know that someday you are going to want to get back up. It gets harder and harder the longer that goes on. And now is definitely the time to decide...do you really want to contribute to the class of post traumatic stress and anxiety that if we were to stay in our victim mindsets would be bound to explode when all this is over? Or do you want to be part of the change that creates a better life in the future?
(If you haven't decided on a career change choice, counseling or virtual/or in person life coach might be a good one) But hopefully, we'll all choose to better our future and put our energy and skills on improvement, jettisoning forward.
5. Don't waste time feeling sorry for yourself
Similar to lesson #4, in that the longer we let ourselves bemoan our fate, the less we're doing to help ourselves, each other and the world. But also, the less energy you are putting on improving your situation. At some point we're going to need to switch from the fearful mentality of "survival" and "protection" to one of faith and opportunity. Some of the best inventions, books and ideas have come from hardship and tragedy. Guarantee these people weren't happy about their situation either, but it sounds like they allowed the situation to bring something to them that ended up being useful to someone in some way. You may believe you have nothing life changing in you but you certainly will never know with your face in the corner.
6. Don't think the world owes you something
Because it doesn't. This isn't personal. And the government, the world, God, and/or mother nature will not pay us back because we got hurt, experienced loss or fear.
7. Don't worry about others' opinions
When people are learning to take charge of their own thoughts, beliefs, emotions and fears, for the same reason it's dangerous to listen to opinions without thinking for yourself, it's dangerous to let others' opinions plan your life, or the next steps in your life. This is a prime opportunity to decide what you have to offer, what brings you happiness, and how you can do it. Don't let others cause you to fear, and don't let others stomp on ideas you have that could (and most likely would) make positive change for yourself, your family, and the world. In a time where nothing is black and white and no one knows what the world will look like 1 month, 6 months, or a year from now, who's to say it can't look a little more like how you want it to?
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8. Don't wait for things to go back to normal
This, I feel, is our biggest downfall to our thinking right now. Because seriously things are not going to go back to "normal". Businesses, systems, and individuals have been forced to change and adapt very quickly. Are we really thinking these changes will just go out the window after all their hard work to get them implemented? I think not. They will just be improved on over time. Some of these changes have been necessary for a long time and we just haven't been able to figure out HOW.
Spending our time wishing for normal is the same thing as dwelling on the past. It hinders us from moving forward, dealing with whatever we need on our way to get there. And really, when so many were feeling overwhelmed and overburdened, do we really want to go back to that version of "normal"? This is our opportunity to create a new kind of normal.
9. Don't think you have to stay the same
Just like the is old normal is not ever coming back in every way it used to be, YOU are changed to. And you DON'T have to go back to doing the same things you did before. Maybe you've decided you LIKE homeschooling your kids. Maybe you discovered a BETTER way to work from home. Maybe working from home has forced necessary changes in your work that are GOOD! Maybe you LIKED having time for a workout routine, walks in the woods, reading with your kids. You DO NOT have to go back to everything that was on your plate before. Just remember, you are not the only one. EVERYONE had to change too, so really no one is waiting around expecting you to get back to what you used to do for them. And if they are, let them sit in your "refusal to grow swamp" alone. They'll get lonely there and pull themselves out when they see all of us doing it, or not.
10. Don't fear taking action on calculated risks
It's okay to think about doing things a different way, or doing new things entirely. Calculated risk means that really everything new is a risk because we don't know what will happen, and calculated means that we have tried to determine the best outcomes for our success. So calculated risk means that we are thinking of trying new things and we are making plans to do them in a way that will be helpful, beneficial and successful. When there are no rules for how things are going to look in the future, how much risk can it really be anyway? How much more risk could it possibly be than what we're in right now? Is it really a risk to try something that your old life can't give you anymore? Since no one knows where things are going, we can only calculate to the best of our ability right now. We're learning to adapt, we'll just keep using this new skill but in something that is bringing us somewhere new.
11. Don't expect immediate results
Even the best change takes time for people to call it awesome. Remember, many are still stuck to an old paradigm, old ideas, or haven't read this article ;). (you can send them a link). A baby doesn't come out right when you get pregnant, you don't mix up batter and instantly have cookies. Processes of change have to happen first. You are becoming too.
12. Don't give up after the first try
When our children fall after they first try to walk do they give up? No, because it's innately ingrained in them to grow and learn and try again. Would you want to live in a world where if your child fell when they first tried to walk they just kept pushing them back down after the first failed attempt? Of course not. But that is what being attached to an old style will do to all of us. Don't give up. WALK!
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Amanda Plevell, PhD, CNHP is a Natural Medicine Practitioner, researching Cellular Biochemistry, and the effects that food, disease, experiences, emotions, and beliefs play into the programming of the cells, along with the resulting health expression and life experience. She is the founder of the Natural Source Companies including community WellClinics, Health Rocks Cafe online education hangout and, as a Personal and Business Transformation Expert, The Success Conditioning Academy. Author of over 28 natural health and self development books, her bestselling books include such titles as "The Genesis Code", "UnBound: Kicking Anxiety From Your Bucket List", "The Energy of Divorce", "The Real Heal", "Clean Your Plate", and "Beyond the Plate". When she's not serving at her Bioenergetics Lab and Telehealth Clinic, she spends her time homeschooling her children along with her husband, growing food, and making garden medicines. You can access her courses at her online hub: Health Rocks Cafe, found at https://courses.healthrockscafe.club/
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